Thursday, January 07, 2010

WENDY MURPHY: A new decade’s resolution for women

By Wendy Murphy, The Patriot Ledger, Posted Jan 03, 2010 @ 12:27 PM

Every 30 or 40 years or so, women realize they’re getting a raw deal. From voting rights to equal pay, the “movement” comes and goes. But it’s been a while since the last wave, and in light of a recent study that found women are less happy now than they were decades ago, it’s high time for a tsunami.

It’s not that women are openly enslaved in misery. It’s more insidious than that. We’re stuck in the mire of a society that manipulates us through the cultural construct of what a “good” woman should look like, and how she should live her life.

One slick magazine cover after the next shows a perfectly coiffed, wrinkle-free beauty, grinning ear to ear with Hollywood sized snow-white teeth, draped in the latest “must-have” outfit. Alongside the cover girls are reams of glossy home decorating magazines that feature gorgeous living rooms and kitchens filled with the trendiest appliances.

There aren’t any pictures of women in their pajamas with no make-up on and crooked teeth – sitting at a scratched-up kitchen table surrounded by stacks of stuff. Know why? Because if real life were the standard-bearer, women might actually be fairly content. Instead, we’re running around buying things we don’t need in order to make our lives all matchy-matchy with the magazines.

The start of a new decade is a perfect time for a new movement. Let it begin with women’s collective resolve to ignore all rules of fashion. Read more.