Monday, October 08, 2012

Don't "fall" into the coparenting holiday dilemmas

It's beginning to feel like fall here in central Texas and excitement is in the air for our favorite holidays - Halloween, Thanksgiving, and Christmas.  It's also the time of year for coparenting holiday challenges.  With the increase of divorce, two separate homes for children, the addition of step-parents, siblings and extended family, it's a challenge for all families to schedule all those trick or treating sessions, family dinners and gift exchanges.  As an attorney, I often hear from my clients this time of year for advice on how to handle these challenges without resorting to "attorneys" and "court" to enforce the orders regarding holiday possession.  In most instances, the final orders are very specific as to which parent has each holiday.  However, I often have to remind my clients that the spirit of a final order is to facilitate a coparenting relationship and not as the be all end all for everything.  You can agree to something entirely different from the what's outlined in the final order.  Work together to do what is your children's best interests for every holiday.  Remain flexible.  Be agreeable.  Meet each other halfway. If your ex-husband has children with his second wife, then work with him to allow your children to create Christmas memories with their younger siblings on Christmas Day and other holidays.  You and your children will be glad that you did.