This story is an important one as many lesbian couples start families by working with a "known" donor (a friend, relative) instead of a sperm bank. This article highlights the inherent pitfalls of what happens when the lesbian parents separate and the custodial parent (bio mom) applies for state benefits. The state will intervene to establish paternity, especially here in Texas, to recapture monies from the "Dad". Therefore, it is crucial that the parties work together to terminate any "rights" of the "donor" and have the non-biological parent adopt the child. Then, the state will come after the "legal" non-bio parent to establish child support instead of the donor.