Monday, October 17, 2016

Divorce is Scary.. but it doesn't have to be

Everyone shudders at the mention of the word “divorce”.  It’s the stuff nightmares are made of, especially for those of who have invested a lot of years and sacrifice into a marriage, and perhaps raised children together. We all know and love the infamous scene in War of the Roses when Kathleen Turner in a monster truck squares off against Michael Douglas on the front lawn of their house. Divorce doesn’t have to be that way. It can be amicable if both utilize the discipline to look at the bigger picture. 

When divorces are adversarial, usually the only ones that benefit are the lawyers. An amicable divorce requires a mindset that focuses on the big picture - getting divorced with the least amount of collateral damage.  Yes, there is give-and-take, but it affords a bigger bank account, and helps keep co-parenting relationships intact. It is a willingness to put aside your differences and prioritize your peace of mind and your children’s best interests above your own needs for payback. 

An amicable divorce is not easy, but the burden can be eased if you seek the assistance of professionals who can help keep you remove emotion from decision making and maintain focus on the bigger picture:
  • Hire an experienced attorney who handles family law matters exclusively.  This is critical for those who have minor children as well as property. Cases involving children are never simple. You need a lawyer who is a skilled negotiator who can lay out a plan and prepare you for the road ahead.
  • Gather as much financial information as you can and consult with a financial advisor to help you plan for separating your finances and prepare you for settlement negotiations
  • Seek individual therapy immediately so that you and your counselor can work out a plan to keep you focused on a divorce with the least amount of collateral damage or impact to your children.
The above professionals will not solve all the problems inherent in a divorce matter but they can keep down the costs of litigation and help you look forward.

Sunday, September 25, 2016

Free Workshop for Divorcees and Widows held in Dripping Springs on Friday, October 14

Jennifer Cochran-Green is hosting a workshop for divorcing and grieving women to approach legal and financial decisions in confidence.  The workshop will  be held  on Friday, October 14, from 11:30 a.m. to 1:00 p.m. at the Dripping Springs Community Library at 501 Sportsplex Drive in Dripping Springs. The format is a lunch and learn where light refreshments will be provided and attendees may bring their own lunch if they choose. Jennifer will deliver a presentation focused on issues impacting children immediately after a death of a parent or during divorce.  Leanne Layne, an estate planning attorney with Kernodle Layne Group and Amy Colton, Wealth Advisor with Forefront Wealth Solutions will deliver presentations on making decisions about estate planning and financial issues. 

"I'm so excited to bring this seminar to the Dripping Springs community at no cost to attendees.  Throughout my career, I have found that many women are often caught off guard by their finances when in the midst of preparing for divorce or grieving the loss of their husbands.  This seminar seeks to educate women to be more mindful of the importance of planning and preparation so that they are truly prepared should disaster strike." --Jennifer Cochran-Green

You can RSVP to Jennifer at Visit the seminar's Facebook page at to learn more about the seminar and the presenters.

Saturday, September 24, 2016

Jennifer Cochran-Green graduates Leadership Dripping Springs

The Dripping Springs City Council congratulated the inaugural Leadership Dripping Springs class on their recent graduation and honored them with a proclamation making September 20th "Leadership Dripping Springs Day." Leadership Dripping Springs is a program sponsored by the Dripping Springs Chamber of Commerce that provides a hands-on, interactive experience where participants are enhancing their personal and professional skills. The participants underwent a nine-month process of learning the needs and current issues of the region, sharpening leadership skills and meeting with key policy makers.

"The program was a wonderful experience.  I learned so much about the inner workings of our community - education, infrastructure, government - and look forward to contributing more to our amazing community in a meaningful way." --Jennifer Cochran-Green

Sunday, August 21, 2016

Back to School Tips for Co-parents

Co-parenting after divorce is often a minefield, especially when there is still parental conflict or resentment because of what happened during the marriage or the divorce. The issues associated with the start of the school year can strain the co-parenting relationship as they negotiate the last days of summer, the first day of school, the purchase of school supplies and school clothes, child care arrangements, extracurricular activities, pickups and dropoffs, and much more. This time stresses the need for more communication, and unfortunately raises the risk of miscommunication between co-parents who probably have little tolerance or patience for the other.

A few helpful tips for avoiding pitfalls when starting off the school year (and lowering the risk for co-parent miscommunication and potential litigation):  
1) Get information directly from the school by enrolling in your child’s school’s Parent Portal System, if available. These programs allow parents to access information on grading, attendance, discipline and assignments.
2) Establish your own relationship with teachers, coaches, and school officials. Coordinate with the other parent a rotating schedule to bring in snacks and supplies so that the effort is shared and that one parent is not always bearing the burden (and accompanying resentment). Review the school calendar and add the school breaks and holidays to your personal calendar versus relying on the other parent to communicate this information. This goes for extracurricular activities as well.
3) Extend courtesy to the other parent.  One of the greatest lessons we can pass on to our children is applying the Golden Rule in our relationships. For example, if you have possession of your child on a holiday or a special milestone such as your child’s first dance, invite the other parent to come over for pictures and to participate. A little goes a long way.

The above tips will help you maintain focus on your child and demonstrate to your child (and co-parent even if they don’t readily acknowledge it) that your co-parenting relationship is important to you and that you have your childs best interest at heart.  If nothing else, it will provide good evidence in Court.